Well, it finally happened – the blessing of a same-sex relationship in an Anglican church; in theory there’s a long way to go yet and this blessing was limited in its nature, but with a majority of the bishops backing this it is expected that before too long there will be full church weddings for such couples. But should this be happening?
1) IT’S NOT ABOUT LOVE….
Let’s be clear – there is no biblical problem about men loving men or women loving women. Nor is there a problem that there is quite a bit of physicality in the relationship – humans are physical beings living in a physical world, and in Christianity, though marred by sin the physical world is basically good and important, as indicated by the idea of resurrection of the body. We are supposed to appreciate the good looks of others – though of course in balance with other qualities. We are supposed to express love by embracing and kissing people. According to no less than King David the love between two men can be ‘greater than the love of women’….
However, we are not meant to have a sexual relationship with everybody. In Christian terms a full sexual relationship is for and with the person who you marry. As we see from the current controversy, ‘gay Christians’ are proposing marriage (including therefore a sexual relationship) for same-sex couples; opponents are saying that sexual activity is an inappropriate way to express same-sex love.
There is a point here that is often overlooked in these discussions. The regular gay ‘mantra’ is that ‘gay’ is something you ‘just are’, have no choice over, and so can’t help ‘being’. Supposedly it is like ethnic differences, black skin, blonde hair and such. Yet sexuality is very much about SEXUAL ACTIVITY, things people DO or at least want to do, deeds that they very much CHOOSE to do. And anything people can claim to ‘be’ in that context is not simple stuff like skin and hair colour but complex stuff about the urges and desires to do things. In fact I’d submit that morally and legally sexuality is in a whole different category to the things people ‘just are’, and the analogy to ethnicity etc. is a false analogy….
2) NOT A SPECIAL CATEGORY, NOT DESERVING SPECIAL PROTECTION….
Since ‘being gay’ is about something people do and choose because ‘urges and desires’, it isn’t and cannot be in the same category of ‘just being so’ as ethnic differences. On the contrary it belongs instead in the broad category of everything – not just sexual things – people do and choose to do. That category goes all the way from the saintly to the devilish. People have all kinds of urges and desires, which can seem to be ‘natural’ and irresistible, but to have the concept of right and wrong at all, things people do/choose have to be open to challenge and criticism and likewise those underlying urges and desires. It isn’t really possible to just say “Oh, I have the urges and desires to do (whatever) so it must be OK to act out those urges”. Well I suppose it is possible to say that, but there are very few people who would want to live in a world in which it is believed that the urges and desires of a Hitler or, say, the late Ian Brady, have to be accepted as OK just because they ‘are’.
Say it again to be clear – ‘doing because urges and desires’ basically covers everything we do from the good to the evil, but precisely for that reason the rights and wrongs are – and must be – open to question, and disagreeing cannot be automatically regarded as ‘hate speech’ or even hate ‘crime’. People can’t meaningfully ‘DO’ or CHOOSE things like being black African or having blue eyes, but sexual activity is clearly both DONE and CHOSEN so it isn’t in the same category, and when gays claim it is, and claim to be entitled to similar legal protection (not to mention right to legally persecute people) it is a false and badly thought-through claim.
They can of course be entitled to the respect and protection allowed in a tolerant society to people of differing views, religious or philosophical, and differing conduct as a result – but that is way below the kind of position they currently claim. They are indeed entitled to equality – but only equality whereas, in recent years, they’ve actually been claiming a falsely privileged position. This is potentially a serious civil rights issue in the complete opposite way to how gays present it….
Seriously, to make a case that God approves of gay sex, it is necessary to say that God positively designed the gay sex from the creation, as one of the things that in Genesis it says “He saw that it was good”.
It is also really necessary to accept the ‘gay’ claim that God “makes people gay”. But note that, as per the discussion above, the notion of God ‘making’ people to do and choose behaviour is a very different matter to God ‘making people black (or blonde or blue-eyed)’, a much more complex issue. And note the contrapoint that God absolutely does NOT ‘make people’ sinful, though clearly he can and does permit it.
And again, to claim God’s approval it looks as if the ‘gay’ notion must be accepted that they ‘have no choice’ – though given that we are very much talking about the chosen acts of sex, rather than things people ‘just are’ like hair colour, again the gay case seems over-simplified or muddled, or worse….
But what does it mean that God ‘makes people gay’? As I said above, simply people of the same sex loving one another is not a problem, nor is it a problem that they may embrace and kiss. The biblical problem is about the attempt of a same-sex couple to do same-sex ‘sex’, explicit genital acts. So to say God ‘makes people gay’ means something like this –
“God made ‘sexuality’ as a thing for males with females, designed complementary anatomy with purposes way beyond just enjoyable stimulation of certain body parts, purposes which include bringing new humans into being. An important part of human life to be treated with respect. In ‘making people gay’ God apparently positively deprives some men of the urges and desires to do and enjoy that wonderful gift, and instead makes them want, rather absurdly and pointlessly, to shove their male sexual organs up other men’s shitholes and down other men’s throats (and ‘lesbians’ to want to do almost stranger and more artificial things for them to imitate real sex)”.
And honestly, wouldn’t that be a rather weird thing for God to do to people?? And if he did do such things, wouldn’t he be a rather weird God? Do Christians really believe in such a God? In their desperation to argue for ‘gay Christians’, gays and liberal Christians fail to realise that for most people this kind of argument will be seen as a reason not to believe in God at all – at any rate the God as presented in the gay case. The traditional/orthodox view that gay urges and desires are part of the disorder resulting from ‘original sin’ is far more credible….
Needs saying that the ‘made that way/no choice’ idea does have an alternative explanation in traditional Christian theology, an explanation far wider than just sexual issues; indeed Paul’s discussion of this idea is a major part of the key text Romans 1, and the passage there about homosexuality should not be detached and isolated from this broader context.
In Romans 1 Paul effectively describes ‘la condition humaine’, the mess humanity is in which requires the gospel to straighten it out. He logically follows through from the initial human unbelief, which amounts to an attempt by humans to be their own ‘Gods’ and run their own lives outside divine control, and shows how this works out. He points out that having rejected the real God, men unless insane can’t after all kid themselves they are great enough to run their own lives, so end up inventing false gods, or in the modern world other things round which they integrate their lives and seek meaning – there is a reason why sporting and other celebrities are referred to as idols….
Disjointed from the true God and so from reality, humans find themselves also out of joint with the physical world, out of joint with the rest of humanity, and even out of joint within themselves, becoming ‘captive’ to undesirable urges and desires – the attempt to seize control from God ends up in a loss even of self-control, an inability to resist temptation over a wide field of activity, not just sexuality issues.
A Postscript
Although it is in many ways a logically rather different issue, transgenderism is another area where I have heard the argument that “God makes people transgender”…
Really?? Is a sane and loving God even remotely likely to “make a woman” by a process of making a person with a perfectly good male body, and then putting in that body a mind that is incompatible with that body to the point he is willing to undergo some of the most drastic (and expensive) voluntary surgery known to humanity to produce a body he is happy with???
And seriously, objectively the result is only superficially a ‘woman’ anyway…. What kind of god does that to people…?
As with the “God makes men gay” argument, though more extreme, believing God would deliberately treat people that way is pretty much an argument that God is unloving, insane and frankly cruel. Again the traditional view that ‘gender dysphoria’ is not God’s direct creation but another disordered consequence of human sin makes better sense and allows belief in a sane and loving God.
A PPS - yes, as we’re talking about Anglicans this issue has a lot of connected stuff about state and church; I’ve deliberately chosen to leave that aside for now to discuss simply the basic Christian position on ‘gay sex’.